CHRISTIAN DATING ADVICE

Dating Advice for Christian Men

Blending the balance of our desires and beliefs is an ever-going process in our lives.

Speaking to you as someone who's struggled, at times, with his faith and his urges as a man, I believe I have a unique perspective on how the two fit together.

It is natural to strive to stand firm in what we believe and for most Christian men, staying within the boundaries of the church is essential for their experience of love.

Sex during marriage only is one of those boundaries.

This is not a belief for us to judge since there are validities of free will choices for us all in whether we follow it or not.

Ancient cultures used to believe that when partaking in sex, a part of the other person's soul would mingle with yours, and that you'd carry that person around with you for the rest of your life.

Keeping your virginity for your wife is a wise choice since this is true in some respects.

Ultimately, this presents a distinctive confrontation for men who wish to remain true to their faith.

There are a few perspectives to consider when you wish to continue attracting women and then foster your relationship while awaiting the consummation of marriage.

Sex is important after all, since marriage to someone sexually incompatible is a difficult union for anyone.

This advice is helpful for those men who face the emergence of blending faith and romance.

1. Refine your beliefs

Faith guides us throughout our lifetime, is essential that you are clear in where you place your faith and beliefs.

We all have free will, the ability to think and reason, this is God's gift to us. We look at all our options while deciding which path we each take. Some of us take it all in and keep what teaching reverberates within our higher self, while others embrace all of their churches teachings.

Your choice is your own; however, you must be clear of your belief and stand strong.

2. Understand that God has a plan for you.

You must trust in the fact that there is a woman out there you are meant to be with, and God has a plan to unite you with her.

Keep in mind, you have to do your part too, since there is only so much that he can do. You have free will and must take action to capture the opportunities presented to you.

To find the right woman for you, you must be proactive.

Since your actions are belief based on the path God that has set before you, you have to make it happen. This means going out to meet women, dating and getting to know the woman. Remember this is not something that just happens.

3. Understand that virginity is not mysterious or essential.

Many people have a notion that virginity is something to be prized, but it really isn't. Sex is just an act. It's just like breathing, or walking, or exercising. It is something we do.

God meant for man to be fruitful and multiply. We are meant to have sex. It is one of God's greatest gifts. If we were not meant to have sex, He would not have made it pleasurable.

So to look at your virginity as something sacred is not helpful. Virginity is meant to be lost - the real challenge is finding the right person to lose it to!

Sex of course is an aspect of spirituality. It is one in which you find the person who makes you feel alive, loved and completed. This is distinct from the sexual act, since it vibrates within a higher level of your soul.

It is this type of intimacy you should strive to achieve before marriage, because this will help you to know if the physical aspect will be in tune as well.

Kissing, touching and hugging are natural and nothing to fear. However, sharing your dreams and hopes while gazing deeply into her eyes and relating to her internal desires is where intimacy stems and thrives.

4. Women are real and do not belong on a pedestal.

When you place too much importance on blending sex and faith, you may find yourself inflating the importance of a woman.

You may think of a woman as some delicate flower goddess that is treated special and treasured.

Keep in mind, there isn't much difference in men and women, since we are all cut from the same cloth. Treating a woman special because of a sexual attraction is not the same as respect.

Loving an ideal is easy, although it is difficult at times to love reality. Remember women too get cranky when hungry, awakens with morning breath and asks you to take out the garbage. This is reality.

Rather than idealizing a woman, you have to learn to love the reality of her. Sex is only one of her aspects, since as humans we share many of the same qualities.

You will develop a clearer perspective when you realize that as humans women are just like you in many ways; this helps you to determine if they fit into your life plan.

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